Today’s picture for invisible illness is a personal one. This is one of about 30 notes that my friend has received since using her handicapped placard. I’m going to say this to you, have you ever seen someone get out of a car parked in a handicapped space and said to yourself “they look too young or they don’t look disabled.” I’m going to go with yes you have, because we all have at one time. I can’t remember doing it, but before I understood the difficulties of invisible illness when I was younger I probably did. Let me ask you this though, when you had that thought was it because you knew with 100% certainty that they weren’t handicapped or did you assume that because of their age and/or not seeing a cane, walker or wheelchair? All I’m asking is that we stop and think when we someone need a mobility aid, park in a handicapped space or say they are disabled that we remember this “DISABILITY HAS NOTHING TO DO WITH AGE OR APPEARNACE.” #spoonie #invisibleillness #disability #chronicillness #rheumatoidarthritis #lupus #fibromyalgia #myofascialpainsyndrome
If nothing else, this post needs to be seen around the internet more. This harassment is not okay and no one should have to deal with it on top of having an invisible illness. This is just another form of anonymous bullying to add to the internet bullying these TROLLS are capable of.
If you are healthy, please reblog.
If you are sick, please reblog.
If you have a disability, please reblog.
If you have an invisible illness, please reblog.
If you know someone with a disability, please reblog.
If you are a human being, please reblog.
Let’s spread the word and help those of us that may not look like it.
Ignorance isn’t bliss, ignorance is ignorance.
And people ask me why I am afraid to use my cane in public.
Being disabled, visibly so is always dangerous
When I got my first cane and posted about it, I had people demanding to know why I thought I “deserved” it at my age.
That was the word.
This is the kind of bullshit that made my dad, a man who dealt with crippling pain from degenerative disc disorder, afraid to apply for handicapped parking
I remember saying to him that he could get handicapped plates and hearing him say that it wasn’t “bad enough” as I watched him wince and hobble as he walked from the back of the parking lot
People internalize these ideas, even handicapped people, that’s why this is so fucking important
You need to seriously do something better with your life then thinking it’s okay to go around telling people they’re not allowed to love themselves. Seriously, what is wrong with you? At what point did your ego inflate to the point of thinking you’re allowed to tell people what they need to do with their bodies and how they feel about them?
I am allowed to love how I am and how I look regardless of how you perceive me. Sorry to break that to you.
Except that when health is involved there is a right and wrong. Yes loving yourself is great, but you must e healthy so you can enjoy life as well.
"You must be healthy."
Nope nope nope. Health is not a moral imperative. You don’t owe anyone health. Your health is your own personal business, and absolutely does not dictate how much you can love yourself or enjoy life.
There’s loads of people in the world with health problems who don’t happen to not be at a larger size. A few of those people include
- Lucille Ball, actress with rheumatoid arthritis
- Franklin D. Roosevelt, former president with polio
- Michael J. Fox, actor with Parkinson’s disease
- Halle Berry, actress with type 2 diabetes
I could go on with this list, but I wonder how many people suddenly care about their health? Can you really tell by looking at them? Does it matter? Why should it matter? Would you say this to thin bodied people as well?
If you only care about people’s health in terms of body size, you have a very narrow minded, and ignorant view of health and what it should look like.
Being healthy doesn’t make you a good person, being unhealthy doesn’t make you a bad person. Being a different size, or having health problems is not a reflection on you as a person. If you’re trying to justify hatred and discrimination towards someone because of their health and how you think it has something to do with their size then you are a bad person.
Not to mention, you’re not exactly “helping” by telling someone to lose weight. You’re infact doing the opposite, and you’re damaging the persons mental health as well. If you cared about health even a little bit, body shaming someone under the guise of “concerned for your health” wouldn’t be even be an option for you.
Health is not a moral imperative. Fat shaming and body shaming on the other hand is immoral.
There’s nothing wrong with girls who do a lot to maintain their appearance and there’s nothing wrong with girls who do very little to maintain their appearance but there’s something extremely fucking wrong with girls who think it’s okay to judge girls for doing either or. Shut your crusty ass up for 10 seconds and let a bitch live.
Hurting myself is not a good way to cope.
Not eating is not a good way to cope.
Isolating is not a good way to cope.
Talking shit about myself is not a good way to cope.
Lately I don’t really feel strong at all. Most nights end with me forcing myself to sleep in some artificial way once it’s already getting late. I don’t really feel like I’m doing anything right. But I hope this blog still helps people. If I can touch one person or make one persons day a little less bad then I guess I’m doing one right thing in my life.