this is really selfish but
why can’t mental illness be like any other kind of sickness where you go to hospital and your loved ones come and give you flowers and tell you that they love you and hold your hand and make sure you get better
why doesn’t that happen instead of awkward silences and embarrassing tears and messy bedsheets and a bunch of other stuff no one actually talks about
w h y
I can’t find a single selfish thing in that.
I post both feminist and anti-feminist posts because I think it’s important to critique even the best of movements so that they can improve and adapt to circumstances. I also believe that feminism is not perfect.
Finally, I like to look at both sides of arguments and often play devil’s advocate so that people (including myself) can come to conclusions about something without blindly following one side.
I am against the popular notion that breasts are genitals.
They are made of the exact same organs and tissue that are found in males. Infact, men are capable of developing fully functional breasts. This can be done without hormone therapy. Breasts aren’t triggered by the female chromosome, they are triggered by hormones that are present in both men and women.
People have argued that because some women can orgasm through prolonged interaction with their nipples, so that somehow means girl’s nipples are sex organs, aka Genitals! That suggests that breastfeeding is a form of child rape. Women can orgasm during childbirth, is birth rape? What the F*** kind of arguments are these?
There is no reason to discriminate against women exposing the exact same body parts that men do, especially since women have an actual reason to expose their breasts in public. Breasts feed babies, that is their purpose. Not letting people feed their babies in public is ridiculous and stupid.
Countries where women are more liberated with what they are allowed to do with their own bodies have fewer percentages of rape victims.
Showing your breasts does not equate to nudity.
tbh I don’t see the fuss about having waiters/waitresses not being happy and enthusiastic like I came here to eat I didn’t come here to be amused by employees as long as I’m getting my food and they’re not being blatantly rude I don’t see why y’all need to go on yelp to rank a restaurant 0/5 and have an outburst on why your waitress didn’t smile at you when she poured you water
this is pretty fucking important
in a healthy, close relationship of any kind, when something upsets you, you need to bring it up. as soon as possible, even. cultivate an environment in which you both can talk about things that upset you, with the utmost attention to everyone’s feelings. it’s a really simple thing to do but it’s a thing i’ve been working on for a while and i’m getting actual nice things happening as a result